Dear “Helpless man “
I hereby tend my resignation from the organization. I am getting married in a couple of months, and intend to relocate to join my spouse, who is settled abroad. I would like you to respect this decision, and release me at the earliest. I am ready to fulfill my notice period, and also give adequate knowledge transfer to my replacement, as required of me.
I appreciate the organization for providing me this valuable opportunity, and although the resignation is a painful decision for me, I would request you to process my formalities at the earliest.
Thanking
“ 2010 woman”
The reply
Dear “2010 Woman”,
I acknowledge the receipt of your mail. I regret to inform that your resignation is not accepted, for the primary reason, our organization has a global presence, and you can try and also be assured of getting an opportunity to work in the same location where your spouse would be. I am putting you on to the correct personnel who will help you find the opportunity, and also help in the settling process.
In the event of the same not coming through, which is unlikely, we have one more option to help you with the dilemma. We would love to have your spouse in our company, because we are always in need of great talent. So we would try our level best in giving a suitable offer, to your spouse, which will help you both settle very well in your post marriage life.
I wish you great luck in your new innings in your personal life.
Thanking
“ Helpless Man”
The counter reply
Dear “Helpless Man”
Let me take the opportunity to thank you sincerely for trying the option of getting a work in the location of my spouse. Also, it is a commendable initiative to try an option for my spouse in the organization. I regret to say that, I do not intend to continue working, as my in laws are not keen in me working post marriage, and I would like to adhere by their point of view.
Although I take pride in working in this organization and also feel obliged that the organization is willing to accommodate me in getting an opportunity, I am very clear and am in no dilemma. I feel, I should go ahead with my decision.
I would appreciate if you could let me know a suitable release date.
Thanking again
2010 Woman
The reply
Dear “2010 Woman”
It is by far a greatest truce, primarily because you, with all your education cannot convince your in laws in changing their point of view. Today, women are there everywhere and the main reason for their presence and eradicating the inequality is their willingness to contribute to the cause, and independence is their tool of choice.
I am again rejecting the application, because we can go ahead and discuss the same with your in laws, with your permission of-course. We have a separate women counseling cell that will take the onus and will help you come over the obstacle convincing your in laws.
Do not worry, as we know that you would love to continue working, and also the independence and intellectual maturity that the work offers you and we would try our best to have your right with you.
Thanks
Helpless man
CLIMAX
Dear “ Helpless Man”
I REITERATE, this is getting a bit overboard. It is not only my in-law’s choice, but mine as well. I do not intend to work anymore. Although working was exciting and a good learning, I think I should be at home, and also take a BREAK. I need a break from the hustle bustle, work activity, and post marriage, it would be beneficial to all parties involved, including myself.
I would be able to concentrate on my personal life, and in no way willing to sacrifice on that.
I would appreciate if you are sensitive to my concerns, and let me know my release date.
No Thanks
2010 Woman
The Reply
Dear “2010 Woman”
It is a pity, and absolutely against altruism that you intend to take a break. Well for the same break, we give you annual leaves and what not, but here I find absolutely no relevance to any for the cause of recreation.
I wonder if this is all that you perceived for yourself in the future, why did you even pursue with zeal and vigor your engineering studies ? It would have been better to stop at HSC, and learn about family and sacrifices, post that.
I intend to let you know, that we invest the same amount in training, invest the same in getting you a good opportunity, and why do only you have to take a break? I have never had, or will never have a male counterpart walking and telling me, that he intends to take a break post marriage.
I accept your resignation, but please note that, I would never ever want to hear from you about gender inequality at the top of the corporate hierarchy, when educated women like you do not want to contribute to the same.
No thanks
“Helpless Man”
Anti Climax
Dear “ Helpless Man”
I have been offended by this mail, and I intend to escalate this to higher authorities on unethical behavior.
This is an open case of insult, personal defamation and also mental trauma and I want to let you know that you would have to face the music.
2010 Woman
The end
Dear “Helpless man”
We are in receipt of a complaint against you for unethical behavior, and you have been charged for discriminatory comments and personal defamation. It is with restraint and unfortunate that at this position the comments are totally derogatory.
We hereby issue you a stern notice of warning, and would want you to issue a written apology to the party involved and also taking an adequate step to not repeat the same in the future.
Thanking,
Whomsoever it is concerned
The nail in the coffin..( Whose coffin ??)
Dear “whomsoever it is concerned”,
I hereby tend my resignation, because I intend to take a break. A break from fate, and also a break from the fateful repercussions if I tend an apology.
Thanking,
Helpless Man
13 comments:
The beginning of your post starts with a end in the career by a "2010 women"
Surprised abt "Helpless man" who invades so much into the decision.
"I have never had, or will never have a male counterpart walking and telling me, that he intends to take a break post marriage" - Actually men(not all) aint dare enough to take such decisons.....but suprised that they resign for reasons like "not ok to send an apology"...
Sheba,
Thanks for making your mark.
With my limited knowledge on your gender i came up with this.
But this is a problem that marquees the whole gender inequality and all.. Crap my simple point is Men dont resign, is not primarily they dont dare, but they have this called as "Social Pressure"
Dont you think, it is the educated mass of women who should be taking up the initiative ?
And the resignation is not to render an apology...It clearly states
"The repurcussion of an apology", which means something that will devastate an already devastating problem....APATHY BY WOMEN
Anuj,
I dont agree with the point when you say "social pressure".....
Let men take the initiative.... that let me take a break post marrigae... and let my spouse take the complete responsibility...then definitely educated mass of women would feel happy about the maturity.
:)don't we see this everyday !... am not sure in real life all the women who make this decision have the clarity and conviction your '2010 woman' has... i wouldn't be so worried about this if they had...
while this is a concern.. the HUM/TUM stance of the article might reduce this to a he/she perception fight...
when i am in such discussions..i have a feeling that some of them might be actually relieved that the onus and burden of decision making in life is not on them any more and they can pass it on to their husband/in laws/parents etc..
the burden & consequences of empowerment is not easy to carry for all..
Anuj, I must say ur blog post is remarkable...
But whatever it might be.. I would love to be woman 2010 as mentioned ur blogpost...
Unfortunately my circumstances are different and I would be supporting my spouse throughout... Just that my resignation mail would say" I am going for better career growth"!!!!
Anu,
I can understand, But what do we mean here by supporting your spouse ?
Well I am sure you would be doing something worthwhile, than be termed a homemaker.
I am sure you would go teach, do some art.
Because my point is, " Taking a break " is something that is just not acceptable
but I would allow my spouse to take a break if I am well off.. and we can manange with one person's salary and if I am enjoying my job. I believe if couple are fine then anyone can take a break... I dont believe in expecting my spouse to work his whole life..
I knw this case would be 1 in 100s but time will change.. Already so many men are homemakers
Hey Anuj, the post was good and thought provoking indeed and also a vent out for our HR-professionals who deal with these kinds of resignation mails day in and out.
Well ... suggest you can change the helpless man to "Helpless HR" who can't convince 2010 women to leave their jobs / self identity to join their spouse onsite :)
Keep blogging !!!
nice concept.. not bringing the gender issue :P
HRs :P :P :P
broo....... i think you are the " helpless man " and need a " woman 2010" in your life :))) . It's not about man or woman but about the pressures everyone deals with in their life !!
Nice blog bro... thinking about it - I now need a break :P :P :P
Hi Anuj,
I must admit that i have not read this blog just as every other had. For me this one is a masterpiece of creativity(incase if u havn't copied). Loved the flow of thoughts and the humor. To me this was a little high quality stuff coz(Still puzzled in understanding few words). Overall excellent Blog which i had ever read.
Waiting for more pal!!!!!!
good one Anuj.
Post a Comment